Obey Rulers

What does it mean to obey them that have the rule over you?

How does this concept differ from the admonition given to the elders to not lord it over the flock?

As we look at the various places and ways that the word is used regarding obeying those that have rule over you, we find that not only is the church body in worship referred to, but the body in general as well.

WE note that the wife is supposed to submit to her own husband, but at the same time, she is told to obey the elders.

What if the husband told his wife that on Wednesday evening that he was taking her with him to the company picnic, which he was required to attend, and to help with for his company?

Should she obey the eldership, and worship with the congregation, or should she give first consideration to her own husband? I would be interested to hear your feedback on this topic.